In the concluding part of the conversation with Fadun Toluwawumi, Read the first part here she talked about her experience with peer pressure and she thinks the biggest challenge for a teen is the struggle to be understood.
Read below;
Question: How did you deal with peer pressure?
A: I've always believed I'm different from the rest so I can't follow what others have to say about me.
My background was a constant reminder to not get engaged in some things. I have been taught some certain truth from the home so my friends saying something similar didn't appear right.
I always remember there's a punishment for any mistake made because I have disciplinarians as parents, that alone helped me deal with peer pressure really well.
Question: On the vices, Yahoo, moral decadence, indecent dressing, what is your opinion?
Any advice for the teens?
A: One thing I've come to notice is, teens, believe whatever they do is right which makes it hard to make corrections. Indecent dressing, moral decadence, and all other atrocities should not be promoted.
A teen should be purposefully distinct.
Teens who understand purpose early enough don't support this.
As regards dressing, I won't say this is a proper way to dress, just know whatever you put on explains who you are. You know Doctors by their laboratory coats and stethoscope, you know Engineers at the site by their helmets, same with other professions; your dressing tells us who you are from afar without conversing with you. Well, choosing your style is not bad just make sure it is decent.
Hello Teenagers, live right and purposefully. Don't believe in the philosophy of knowing all.
Question: What was your career choice as a teen? The motive?
Did your parents influence it?
Are you still on that path today?
Any advice for teens today on career choice?
A: I wanted to be an economist and that was because I loved economics. My parents never influenced the class (science, commercial, art) to be, the freedom to choose was there.
I'm not on that path because I got to know becoming an economist was beyond loving economics; I was more exposed to real life that I decided the path to go.
My advice: Whatever career you would be choosing, make sure you have a deep understanding and all it takes to get there. The moment you are certain, keep working towards getting there. Don't allow the spirit of 'follow follow' follow you to choose science class because your friends are there when you could have been in commercial or art class and be the best student. Also, don't mistake your career for a side hustle - know what you want to become and go for it.
Before you choose, have a deep understanding.
Question: What do you think is the biggest challenge for a teen in Nigeria?
And how do we overcome?
A: Making older people understand them.
Teens want to be heard, they need someone who would understand them and correct in love, not a person that would see errors. The inability to see people who understand them makes them fall into some pit they would never have fallen into.
Every teenager has a voice; they want to speak and be heard, they want to speak to those that will not only hear them but understand them.
Every teen yearns for an understanding person that is why they get involved in relationships that's not right because they found someone to talk to that understands them.
How do we overcome it?
1. Parents should build a good relationship with their children right from childhood before they turn teenagers.
2. Parents should cater to teen's emotional needs too and not focus on physical needs.
3. Teens should seek better ways of communicating with older and more experienced people and stop seeking advice from people in the same age range.
4. Always say what you feel is not right even if the attention is not given. I watched a movie where there was this teenage girl who never got the attention of her parents, even at the dining table. She got furious one day and screamed, "I'm pregnant"! Her parents paused their conversation to listen to her hoping to hear how she got pregnant but she passed the message she had always wanted to pass instead.
Don't stop seeking attention and passing your message across.
5. Every teen should know God and seek God.
Knowing God gives you access to the Holy Spirit that teaches one into all truth. You can always communicate with God and get divine instructions.
Toluwawumi Adesewa Fadun is an educator, content creator, writer, and lover of God.
She writes to inspire and educate teens and youth with Purpose and Personal Development being the focus. She helps young people discover purpose and live to fulfill it following God's lead.
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